Ever step on the scale, see a number you don’t like, then feel like crap the rest of the day? Ron explores how to lighten up on yourself, and take proactive steps that supports you, rather than tears you down. Everyone has a right to feel good about themselves — all you need to do is exercise that right.
I was just thumbing through my book “Hanzo Philosophy” and I was thinking about some really good blogs, my producer and I were talking about some really good blogs to do. One of my chapters is called Tipping the Scales. It’s how your life will be going along great and then all of a sudden you step on a scale and that number dictates your mood the rest of the day, or the size of your pants.
You may feel really good about yourself and you go in to buy a pair of pants and they’re two sizes bigger than you’re used to. All of a sudden your day is ruined. How did that happen. How, all of a sudden, did a number, did a big, scary number — and yes those are very scary feet, ooh, ooh — change your life that day?
It’s like this, if you start living for a number, if you start seeing a number that’s going to make you happy… If I had a million dollars. If I weighed 104 pounds. If I had black hair. If I just had a new car. Oh, man, if I just had a new job. If, if, if, if, what, what, what, what. It’s always about a number.
If I had enough money, I could go take a vacation. But then I’d have to lose 10 pounds. Then I’d have to spend 30 days in the gym, and then, and then, and then, and then.
None of us are immune to this. I haven’t been on a scale in 10 years. My producer and cameraman were just talking about how when he’s in town he eats two meals a day and when he’s out of town he eats three meals a day, and he’s in phenomenal shape. He has to be to hang out with me.
But he steps on the scale, all of a sudden he has concerns. Now, nothing’s really changed. He may have gained a couple of pounds. But this guy’s in top shape and it actually affects his day. Now you can imagine, if you keep gaining weight and if that number never changes and you become fixated on that number.
It’s like being fixated on a chocolate bar. It’s like being fixated on a line of cocaine. It’s like being fixated on a heroin binge. It’s like being fixated on a drink of alcohol. We fix on a thing and you shut out the world around you, and you fail.
Throw your scales out, get rid of them, you don’t need a scale. Because you can look in the mirror and see how you feel. “Wow, look, this is bigger, I must be losing some inches, fantastic.” “Wow. I feel really good. I look really good today.” Boom! That’s enough.
Don’t put yourself in judgment from others, from others. You do not want to do that. Allow no entity or movie star or starlet or star, period, to create what you think you should be. You should be who you want to be. If that’s lean, mean, and healthy, then that’s what you should be. If it’s mellow, cool, and pudgy, we salute you.
Whatever you want to do, but do not be a slave to the tipping scale. I mean it. See you later.